This conversation felt like one I’ve been living in my own way for a while now.
A big part of my midlife journey has been about healing past hurts, building self-awareness, and learning self-acceptance in a way I hadn’t before. Not just understanding things in my head… but actually shifting how I feel and how I show up.
And if I’m honest, there comes a point where you realise that pushing through, or even just talking things out, doesn’t always reach what’s underneath.
That’s really what this conversation with Ajitah Shah opens up.
When what used to work… doesn’t anymore
A lot of women hit this point in midlife.
You’ve done the work. You’ve read the books. Maybe you’ve tried therapy, or you’ve just kept going, doing what needs to be done.
But there’s still something there.
Stress that doesn’t fully settle. Patterns that repeat. A sense that something deeper hasn’t shifted.
It brings up questions like:
how to start healing from trauma in a way that actually changes things?
And even… what is talk therapy really doing, and where does it stop?
This isn’t about dismissing it. It helps. But sometimes it only takes you so far.
Bridging psychology and something deeper
What I found interesting about Ajitah is that she’s trained as a psychologist, but she’s also moved into energy work.
And that shift didn’t come from trends. It came from sitting with people in real pain and realising that the clinical tools weren’t always enough on their own.
That’s where the conversation moves into what is energy healing — not as something abstract, but as another layer of understanding what’s going on underneath behaviour, emotion, and coping patterns.
Because we’re not just our thoughts.
We’re carrying experiences in the body, in the nervous system… and, depending on your perspective, in deeper energetic patterns as well.
The patterns we keep repeating
One of the strongest threads in this conversation is around repetition.
The same relationship dynamics.
The same emotional reactions.
The same ways of shutting down or pushing through.
And how easy it is to think it’s just bad luck… when really, there’s something underneath it asking to be seen.
Ajitah talks about this through the lens of karma and wounding.
Not as punishment. More as a pattern.
Something that keeps showing up until we’re willing to look at it differently.
And that’s been a big part of my own experience too.
Midlife has a way of bringing those patterns right to the surface. You can’t ignore them in the same way anymore.
Responsibility… without the blame
There’s a part of this conversation that might feel uncomfortable, but it’s important.
The idea that we sit at the centre of our lives.
Not in a way that blames us for everything that’s happened.
But in a way that gives us back some power.
If we’re part of the pattern, we also have the ability to change how we respond to it.
That’s where the work really begins.
Looking at beliefs. Boundaries. Habits. The things we’ve normalised without even realising.
And slowly choosing something different.
Rebuilding trust in yourself
We also talked about intuition — and how many women have lost trust in their own inner voice.
Especially after years of overriding it.
One of the simplest ways back is paying attention to the difference between what you think… and what you feel.
And then testing that.
Small decisions. Small moments.
Rebuilding that connection over time.
Healing that actually integrates
What I appreciated in this conversation is that it’s not about chasing quick fixes.
It’s about integration.
Supporting the nervous system.
Understanding your patterns.
Making practical changes in how you live.
And if you’re drawn to it, exploring deeper layers through energy work.
But always in a grounded way.
There’s a clear respect for medical support as well — this isn’t about replacing it, but about adding depth where it’s needed.
Purpose looks different in midlife
We also touched on purpose, and this felt really relevant.
There’s often pressure to make it something big. Something visible. Something impressive.
But what if it’s not?
What if purpose in midlife is more about alignment than status?
Something quieter. More local. More real.
Something that keeps showing up, again and again, until you finally pay attention.
For me, this conversation reflects what I think a lot of women are moving through right now.
Not just a midlife shift, but a deeper awakening.
Where healing isn’t just about coping better.
It’s about actually becoming more aware, more honest, and more connected to yourself than you’ve ever been before.
